Bridging the Connection Gap: Empathy

Connection and disconnection are two sides of the same coin in human relationships. They are the ebb and flow of our interactions, shaping our experiences with others and ourselves.

Connection is the bridge that binds us to the world around us. It's the feeling of being seen, heard, valued, and known. It's the warmth of understanding and being understood, the comfort of being in sync with another person. This connection begins with our authentic Self, the nucleus of our lives. Expressing our thoughts, emotions, and beliefs opens the door to understanding our perspective or life story. We reveal the essence of who we are, inviting others into our world.

However, disconnection occurs when we show up as our authentic selves and are met with indifference or judgment. It's a jarring interruption in the flow of understanding, a barrier that blocks the path to empathy. Disconnection is the coldness of being misunderstood, the isolation of feeling unseen. It results from a lack of empathy and a failure to pause and reflect on another's perspective.

Empathy is the key that unlocks the door to connection. It starts with awareness, understanding, and validating our own and others' thoughts, feelings, and perspectives. Empathy is the sensitivity and pause as we actively reflect on another's perspective. It's the bridge that spans the gap between disconnection and connection.

When we don't allow this pause for reflection, often because we don't understand or because it's different from our perspective, we react through survival instincts to keep ourselves safe. But how do we prevent this reaction? We simply pause and acknowledge what is coming up in us first and then remain curious without judgment.

One way I find helpful in doing this is using the Five W's and One H: What, When, Why, Where, Who, and How. This approach gives me information and allows me to step back for reflection, offering empathy for connection. It's a tool that helps us navigate the complex waters of human relationships, ensuring that we build bridges rather than walls.

If you want to work with me to find a deeper connection to your authentic Self and others, please email me. You deserve to be seen, heard, valued and loved. Beloved, please know that I desire to see you, hear you, value you and love you as you learn to love your Self.